Mar 10 2010
J feels cheating “is not and should not be acceptable in today’s culture”
Having heard stories of cheating and after experiencing it firsthand, I feel that it certainly is not and should not be acceptable in today’s culture. In my case, while planning a surprise for my ex-boyfriend after a trip overseas, I bumped into him holding another girl’s hand. It hit me especially hard as he was my childhood friend and someone whom I never expected this from.
The victims in such cases are usually torn apart when the truth is out. The act of cheating leaves the victims at a loss and affects their ability to trust in another relationship.
One example is Jack Neo. Mr Lim Biow Chuan, MP of Marine Parade GRC, condones Jack Neo’s actions. The MP remarked that Jack Neo had been a good son, a father and also a good husband and since he is remorseful over this incident, that he should be forgiven.
In actual fact, a man who has good career development would find such scenarios unavoidable.
How can someone’s success give him the right to cheat? Cheating suggests broken hearts and potentially life-long traumas if one cannot handle these situations well. Cheating suggests selfish individuals who do not exercise self control and shun responsibilties they chose to shoulder in the first place.
In life, one must understand that actions have consequences and must be responsible to them. Therefore, I personally feel that it is more acceptable if one informs his or her partner that the relationship is not working out or has found someone better, rather than resort to cheating.
J, who wishes to remain anonymous, feels very strongly about staying loyal in a relationship. Speaking from a past experience with a straying boyfriend, she feels that loyalty is the best policy.
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MP Lim Biow Chuan’s callous comments clearly indicate where he stand in terms of his moral and family values. Many netizens are also commenting that as a divorce lawyer, Mr Lim constantly helps his clients to deter children from seeing the other parent.
So much for moral and family values! He’s a disgrace to our nation
http://www.temasekreview.com/2010/03/11/pap-mp-lim-biow-chuan-claimed-he-was-misquoted-by-the-media-after-being-slammed-by-netizens-for-defending-pbm-jack-neo/
http://www.temasekreview.com/2010/03/11/another-pap-mp-lim-biow-chuan-flamed-by-netizens-for-finding-excuses-to-vindicate-pbm-jack-neos-sexual-exploits/comment-page-1/#comment-89265
Wow, someone is comparing Ah Nan (阿南) to MP Lim Biow Chuan at this blog –
http://sgsureanot.blogspot.com/
So Ah Nan (阿南) for PAP?
On International Women’s day, I had a luncheon with a few local Chinese girlfriends (I live in Beijing). We had a discussion about spouse infidelity. They told me that it is a fact that husbands will stray and it is an art to be a smart wife, i.e. to turn a blind eye.
Women wants their men to be successful. But when they are, these men will find themselves tempted by this “colourful world”. But my girlfriends said that at the end of the day, these men will all go home to their wives, i.e. the wife will win the war afterall, so why give up their place to confront the mistress.
I agree to the fact that men will stray but this does not mean I will accept it.